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58 Y.O. / Female

Michelle Admine

Ph.D, M.A., M.S., Author, Life Coach
Certified Life Coach
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Relationship Problems

Being in a relationship is one of the most captivating experiences of your lifetime; especially when you get to know each other, share dreams, and plan for the future together. However, just as every road has its own bumps; relationships have their fair share of problems as well. Some might say, "if you've never argued, you've never dated." Relationship problems are part of the dating experience and learning how to solve them as opposed to circumventing them is what makes a relationship mature.

Successful couples are those who have learned to manage their ups and downs and keep their love life on course. Hanging in there, working through complex issues, and tackling every problem as it comes, is a real display of commitment and solidarity in the relationship. For relationships to last or to be really fulfilling, some people read self-help books, attend seminars, and enroll in mentorship programs.

However, one of the more progressive options couples have been pursuing, to help them through their relationship problems, is online therapy. As opposed to the other models of advice and support, online therapy offers a very convenient and less expensive option for people in relationships to interact with a professional online therapist and learn techniques that are proven to help.

Common Relationship Problems and Ways to Solve Them

In as much as relationships are unique and dynamic, there are common pitfalls they encounter. Typical among these problems include:

Communication Breakdowns

Renowned authors, academicians, and other professionals in the area of relationships have pointed time and time again how poor communication is the root cause of most if not all relationship problems. Communication can either be verbal or non-verbal and each of these has its own role in a relationship. There are times when a gesture does it all without speaking a word. Depending on how deep-seated the communication problem in your relationship is, you may have to find a therapist to help you bring the relationship back on track. During your online therapy, the therapist will teach you communication skills; including self-expression, listening, as well as strategies on how to respond even in difficult or emotive situations.

Financial Management and Control

Money problems can arise at any time. Sometimes, they are a result of issues that existed long before you even started your relationship or can be a result of mismanaged funds while dating or even when you were married. Whatever the reason, both of you should be committed to resolving the problems amicably. Honesty about your financial status, being realistic in your planning, acknowledging your spending behaviors, and goal setting is the answer to solving your financial problems. Where possible, draw a budget and factor in your savings and investment plan, individual responsibilities, and the projected sources of revenue.

Division of Responsibilities

In the fast-paced environment, we are living in today, every person is working around-the-clock to make ends meet. This has given rise to busy schedules and less time for domestic chores. In most relationships, the lack of a clear and organized responsibility-sharing plan has been the cause of many conflicts and arguments. To solve this problem, you have to come up with a formula you will use to divide the household responsibilities. Where necessary, you may find a therapist to help you who has a neutral perspective.

Lack of Commitment

For love to thrive and keep growing, you have to make it a focal point. Neglected relationships, and those where commitment is not as strong lose their luster and ultimately die. Once you recognize relationship complacency or more and more relationship problems creeping up, you should make a deliberate effort to revise your priorities and give your relationship a lifeline. Through online therapy, the specialist will take you through restorative plans aimed at revamping your relationship. Things as simple as showing appreciation, planning date nights, and complimenting each other could be the game changer in your relationship.

Incessant Arguments and Conflicts

Occasional conflicts are part of a healthy relationship, but whenever such arguments become repetitive and explosive, they pose a threat to your relationship. The earlier you acknowledge this problem, the better the chances of saving the relationship. Usually, partners find it difficult to resolve such conflicts because each one is blaming the other and unwilling to compromise. Relationship counseling can help you break free from these toxic routines, lessen the anger and take a sober look at the underlying issues. Consider online therapy for you and your partner to learn calm in the midst of a conflict, compromise, and how to react in the best interest of the relationship during an argument.

The Problem of Trust

Trust is the cornerstone of a relationship and where it lacks, uncertainty sets in, which can ultimately cause resentment and anger. Unresolved issues whether past or present can be one of the forces behind mistrust. Addressing them openly and honestly can be a positive step towards gaining the confidence of your partner. There are trained relationship therapists with a wealth of experience in helping couples to regain lost trust. The good news is that most of them are available for online therapy sessions, which means you can benefit right from the convenience and privacy of your home.

Regardless of what your relationship problems may be, online therapists at the Virtual Therapist Network can help you and your significant other overcome the obstacles that are destroying your relationship.